I am…

I am moving away from life clutter.

I am moving against social acceptance and guilt.

I am moving with intuition and a desire to thrive.

I am moving toward simplicity and contentment.


The Ultimate Blog Party 2014 #UBP14


Hello and welcome to Viva La She. It’s still a work in progress as I import posts from my other blog, Sophistishe. Sophistishe started as a personal blog and evolved into a lifestyle blog… so I had to find a new place for my personal thoughts. I’ve been blogging since 2001, back when blogging was all about sharing random musings, so I feel an emptiness when I am unable to do so.

Had to reshare these little guys. #tatumlets

I have two scrumptious boys and a hot husband. He told me to say that. I refer to the boys as Eli and Mar on this blog because those are the nicknames I will eventually call them once they are too grown for Boogie and Juicy. There are other reasons and if you stick around for a while, you’ll learn what makes them special. ;-)

Self expression, wanderlust, art, and the crunchy life are my jams. I’m an introvert who can go on and on and on about the things that I’m passionate about, but enough about me. Introduce yourself! Instagram and Pinterest is where I hang. Let’s connect!

(Ultimate Blog Party ’14)

Oh, Juicy

I scribbled this on an envelope while saucing the chicken.

You ever think you’ll never be able to love another child like your first? And then comes your second… and it’s not that you love them more… it’s that you’re reliving the sentiments of your first all over again… and then some.

Oh, Juicy. Thanks for serving up the happy when we need it most.

(Just Write)

Under Construction

Working on this space when I am able. I don’t mind if you see the mess. Letting go of perfection. :)

Self-Employment Struggle


I feel like I work so hard with very little to show for it… besides the pretty digital footprint. One step forward, two steps back.

I glance at my vision board realizing my accomplishments. I great big puffy heart my ambition, but see my goals fading further away. Quite frankly, I’m damn tired of dancing in the rain.


In my inbox lies opportunity to try again. Maybe I’ll reach the checkpoint.


I’m obviously in my feels today. Digging Akilah’s post {Recognizing Rock Bottom and Embracing Transition} out from my speak da truth files.

50’s Day Dapper

Yesterday was the 50th day of school. In celebration, the kids dressed up and had a Sock Hop. Poodle skirts and hair ties were suggested for the girls, white tees and jeans for the guys. Bore. Snore. Definitely not what I had in mind. Here’s the outfit I quickly put together. He absolutely loved it!



Hat – Epoch / Blazer – Harajuku Mini / Pant – H&M / Shoe – TKS (thrifted)

Inspiration = Sammy Davis Jr. & Mos Def


Photo Cred: Ebony & Trashness

Attached, Yet Free

sleepywrapbobaeli It’s funny how parenting perspectives shift after becoming a parent. When Elijah was in utero, I had all sorts of ideas of how we were going to care for our new addition. In the end, we applied a go with the flow approach, doing what felt right. Many of these things are associated with the Attachment Parenting style. At the time I had no idea Attachment Parenting was thing. All I cared about was accommodating our growing family of three.

We had plans for a nursery. Since we planned to move a few months after having Elijah, we didn’t set anything up and we co-slept with him. Once we moved, we had no desire to set up a nursery. Co-sleeping was far more comfortable and easier on me since I was breastfeeding. Speaking of which, I thought it would be a great idea to pump and let Greg bottle feed Elijah as a way for them both to bond. After realizing how difficult and painful pumping was, I decided to do away with that idea.

Oh and let’s talk car seats. The infant “bucket” seats with the handles. We received one and used it all of once. It was far too much work carrying that clunky thing in and out of stores and establishments. I found it much easier to just wear Elijah instead. When Elijah was an infant, I was introduced to the Sleepy Wrap, now called the Boba Wrap and it made life as a new mom SO much easier. Not only did I wear Elijah out, but most of the day at home. He was so content wrapped up and burrowed in mama’s bosom. With the Boba Wrap, I was able to work and complete daily tasks around the house hands and tear-free because baby Elijah refused to lay alone.

We still apply these same concepts with Marley. We co-sleep, breastfeed, and babywear. We’ve since added more essentials from Boba. Most of our babywearing has been done in Boba’s structured carrier since he liked to wiggle out of the wrap. On crisp spring days, we wore the Boba vest which kept us both snuggly warm. Our parenting style has allowed us to bond with the boys in a way that feels right for us. Attached, yet free.

Boba Vest

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